She's Too Nice Of A Bitch.

Also, lovely stars, I wrote this post in detail because it covers a vast topic. But please, take just 7 minutes of your precious time to read it and commit to making a meaningful change in our complexly beautiful world!

This one is dedicated to a society - Where words and humans both contradict themselves,

"Omg she is such a bi*ch"

"Bro what a Sl*t"

"Wh*re"

"Ugh SHE IS SO ANNOYING"

"Gurl you are like so weird"

"CRINGE"

"YOU SHOULD KILL YOURSELF"

"That is why nobody likes her, she is too nice"

"OMG you are soooo intimidating that is why no guy ever approaches you,

That is why nobody likes you

And that is also the main reason why nobody is your friend -_-"

I knew a girl once whom everybody disliked; many still do!

"You should dress this way, more appropriately"

"Stop wearing such short dresses"

"Women can't lead"

"She was asking for it"

"She's too emotional to be taken seriously"

"Women are inherently less capable leaders"

"She's just a housewife; she doesn’t have a real job"

"Her success is due to her looks, not her talent"

"She's too aggressive for a woman"

"Women who speak up are troublemakers"

"Women aren't good at math/science"

"She’s being too ambitious"

This story, not of one; but many--

"A woman’s place is at home"

"She dresses too provocatively"

"She’s just a pretty face"

"Women are too high maintenance"

"She must be on her period"

"She’s too independent"

"She’s just a feminist, she hates men"

"She’s a bad mother because she works"

"Her opinions don’t matter because she's just a woman"

"Women do not know how to drive cars"

"She’s not a ‘real’ woman if she doesn’t want children"

"You should dress this way, more attractively - it will attract the guys"

"EWW short hair looks gross on you"

Where they constantly berate females in every possible way,

"Ugh you look like a weird nerd when wearing glasses"

"It's not his fault. IT IS YOURS"

"OH MY GOD CAN YOU STOP BEING SO DUMB"

"UGH WHY do you take everything so seriously, it was just a joke"

They persist on making their way--To shut her up,

"This is why people leave you"

"YOU ARE THE PROBLEM"

"STOP EATING SO MUCH, LIKE A PIG"

"Stop eating so less, you look like a stick"

"Your main goal should be to get a boyfriend/husband"

"Don’t pursue higher education; focus on getting married instead."

"If you don't fit into the popular crowd, you're not worthwhile."

"Your social media presence is more important than your real-life achievements."

"You should look and act a certain way to be accepted."

"If you’re not getting attention from boys, there’s something wrong with you."

"You must conform to beauty standards to be valued."

"Your primary focus should be on your appearance rather than your talents or ambitions."

"You should downplay your achievements to avoid being seen as arrogant."

"If you don’t have a good relationship, you’re incomplete."

Her voice--they try to suppress,

"You must be perfect in every aspect—academic, social, and personal—to be successful."

"It’s better to follow trends rather than develop your own style."

"You should hide your intelligence or ambition to avoid intimidating others."

"Don’t express too much emotion; it makes you seem unstable."

"Stop laughing so loudly, you must laugh politely--MEN DON'T LIKE SUCH WOMEN."

"Your self-worth should be validated by others, especially through relationships or social status."

"You should avoid conflicts and keep the peace, even if it means suppressing your own needs."

"Keeping expectations from you, has been my biggest mistake"

"YOU ARE A FAILURE. ZERO"

"YOU DON'T MATTER!!!"

"Everything is fine, stop crying"

"You have everything be happy, stop this behavior and SMILE."

"RESPECT EVERYONE, NO MATTER HOW WRONG THEY ARE! UNDERSTOOD?"

She is fed up of their discouraging voice, she is fed up of their 'helpful' advice and more importantly the toxic way they behave.

She is set on making her own way!

"What a shame! This girl just doesn't have any manners does she?"

Words are deadly are they not?

These words are theirs not mine at all

Whose words you may ask?

This treacherous Society's of course.

The society which we constitute of, is failing miserably in respecting both men and women.

This message is dedicated to all the lovely, daring and delightful ladies out there and a bitter confrontation to the society which keeps on telling women what to do, what not to do, how to do, what to think, how to smile, how to laugh, how to talk only when asked to, how to dress and act a certain way, how to keep accepting abuse and harassment no matter what, how to forget your dreams, how to remember to be in your place. And what not.....

These are such sick, toxic and revolting prejudices and biases which every lady once in her lifetime goes through, and now once is too rare a time to count, they go through all of this really often. SO who and what and why and how are these rules even decided?

"Don't listen to society; most people don't know what they're doing."

I know some people might even agree with half, less than half, more than half and if they are really screwed all the words against women mentioned in the quotation marks. Since childhood, we demean or show such demoralizing behaviors towards girls in some way or the other, further this gets deeply rooted within our subconscious mind intentionally or unintentionally and in our belief systems, we choose to believe and teach such behaviors and acts whether consciously as one thinks its right or whether subconsciously as one doesn't know what is right. We need to understand that what everybody (society) says, teaches or believes may or may not be right. Every society has morals but one should always remember - "Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what's right." - Isaac Asimov. You do not have to believe everything you think and you do not have to do everything which people tell you to do.. And obviously such behaviors, mentality and beliefs are not right at all! A mindset is difficult to change but not impossible. It starts with us, it ends with the ones we teach and more importantly how and what we teach.

For example - Curses like - motherfu**er, bhench*d, sl*t ,wh*re, and many more have sadly been engraved in the minds of teenagers and unfortunately adults too, I won't call you mature. Neither am I and we all cannot deny the fact that we do say this more or less, so have I. But it all starts with change and the refrainment of saying and using such sickeningly wrong words, many people don't even know the proper meaning of these words and they just say it for the sake of fun, like come on is this funny? Is this fun? Absolutely not. So I hope that you all realize how serious of a problem this is.

Remember this dumb meme -

I needed to convey, females can take their own decisions and live however they want to. Other people have to learn to mind their own business. So instead of character assassinating a girl based on her clothes, smile, laugh, body, her bloody gender, her aspirations, her work and whether she wants to be betrothed in holy matrimony and have children or not, or shaming her. That is none of your damn concern, obviously we can help each other out as a society and grow together, but if you want to involve toxicity and wrong biases please and kindly get out. WE SHOULD RESPECT EACH OTHER NO MATTER THE GENDER, SUPPORT EVERYBODY, HELP EACH OTHER OUT IN DIFFICULT TIMES AND GROW AS HUMAN BEINGS.

TAKEAWAY -

Only by tearing down harmful biases and championing genuine equality can we reshape society's mindset and eradicate toxic norms. So confront toxic dialogues, stand up for each other and I know you might face a question - 'OMG HOW DO WE TALK AND CONFRONT THE OLDER GENERATION ABOUT THIS?' - With your words, obviously. This not to offend anybody, sometimes the right and hard things mean the same. So if you really care and want to genuinely grow you won't fear standing up against such wrongs no matter the person, age and power. It is our duty to teach the right in a righteous way and learn right by questioning not only ourselves but our society as well.

My teacher once told me : 'When one person takes a 1oo steps towards growth it is called development, but when hundred people take 1 step together towards growth it is called a revolution.'

PS: This message addresses the toxicity women face, but don't think I'm overlooking the challenges men encounter. Who said I won't write a message about the toxicity men go through? After posting this, I’ll soon share my thoughts on the struggles men face. We all share common humanity, and gender should not divide us. My aim is not to be biased toward any gender- but to favor and advocate for the right treatment of all individuals!

Until then,

With the most equalist love,

XOXO,

MYM