You’re Not Unlovable, You’ve Just Been Underloved - Falling In Love With The Feeling Of Being Liked.

Some people fall in love with people.
I fall in love with the feeling of being liked.

1.🌪️ Reality Check: Love Ain't Always The Fairy Tale You Imagined :

(Sorry, but your Disney romance just got canceled. Here’s the plot twist.)

Now, I know this might sound bold, maybe even a little uncomfortable to some, and you might be quick to laugh or scoff at it. But let’s be real for a moment (Why only a moment tho?), this is the truth.

💔 2. Feeling Unloved Doesn’t Mean You’re Unlovable :

Sometimes or many times,

There are times, many times, when you don’t feel loved in the way you thought you should. We all have an idealized version of love; how it should look, how it should feel, the specific ways we want others to show us affection. But here’s the thing: reality and expectations are two lenses that often clash.

Yet, even in their clash, they have the ability to conform, collide, and connect.

Reality is not set in stone. It’s a raw perception, shaped by three forces: the mind, the soul, and the heart. And like love, reality isn’t constant; it’s ever-changing. It can be altered, just like how we perceive love and the ways in which it’s expressed. So when you feel like “nobody loves me,” know that’s just a perception your three forces are feeling. But here’s the important part: reality is only as far-fetched as you allow it to be. It all starts within you.

💡 3. Love Starts From Within :

Maybe you haven’t been shown love in the way you imagined or hoped for, but that doesn’t mean you can’t learn to love yourself in those very ways.
As one grows, the truth becomes clear: at points in life, you’re going to be alone. And that’s not a bad thing. You don’t need love from others to feel whole. You might desire it, and that’s okay. The key is not to make it a need. Your love for yourself - that is the real need.

To be loved by others, you first have to love yourself. And even when no one else is around to show you affection, you’ll know that you don’t need external love. You are loved by yourself, and that’s more than enough.

🙏 4. The Only Constant Loves - God and You :

We all have expectations and desires, a glimmer of hope that someone, somewhere, at some time might love us, see us, or hear us. Of course, I’m not saying this won’t happen, it might :-

But it will never be permanent. And I’m not here to dishearten you; I’m here to share a simple, though agonizing, truth: The only love you truly need is from yourself and, for me personally, from God. These two; the love of you and the love of God, are the ones that matter. I’m sure of it! They are constant, they are real, and they are always there.

I'm certain that God and I love me.

🌊 5.Loving and hating myself the most :

I came across a quote once that resonated with me deeply:

“No one can hate or love me more than I hate and love myself.”
And that’s been so true for me. No one can hate me more than I can hate myself, but the same applies to love. The love you give yourself will set the standard for the love you receive from others. When you realize this, it takes time and experience. It’s not easy, but once you get it, it becomes soul-changing.

🪞 6. You Might Just Love Being Liked :

You might be tempted to hold onto the feeling of being liked. But it’s not always about the person you’re drawn to. It’s about the warmth that feeling provides.

So, when you feel the need to validate yourself externally, ask yourself this: Why? Why this person? Why this feeling? And then ask, “Why not me?” “Why can’t I show this love to myself?” “Why am I feeling this absence?”

🧩 7. Understanding Yourself Is Hard (But Worth It) :

It all starts with questioning yourself and understanding yourself. And yes, that’s hard. Really, really, really REALLY hard. Understanding other people is one thing, but understanding yourself? That’s a whole different level. But that’s the beauty of it. Once you understand yourself, you no longer feel the need for anyone else to understand you.

The same applies to love. The more you show yourself love, the more you accept and change yourself. The less you’ll need external affection.

🏃‍♀️ 8. When Love Feels Absent Around You :

Even though you may have thought your parents don’t love you enough, or your friends, your family, your partner, your sister, your mother, your father, your brother, your teachers, or those closest to you - Don’t let that make you desperate or sad. Because when you start loving yourself, you won’t need to question others' love for you. You’ll know, without a doubt, that you are enough and yes I can love myself and yes I am enough, even alone, to love myself fully!

🌎 9. The World is Hard, But So Are You :

Yes, this world is hard (Obviously). It gets scarier as you grow, but it also gets deeper as you learn. Don’t lose yourself. Don’t stop loving both yourself and others. There will be times when we might need somebody. And you might as well have somebody to help you in your time of need, but again, remember: It’s never permanent. Nothing in this world is.

So even during your time of need, need yourself first.

All of this might sound emotional and comforting on paper, but in life’s face-to-face experiences, it’s really hard. No, you won’t get it the first time, or even the second, third, or fourth. But eventually, you will. Don’t quit on yourself.

It's okay to fail, but never to quit.

🫀 10. I’m Still Learning To Love Me (And That’s Okay) :

Just because I’m writing this post doesn’t mean I’ve mastered self-love. In fact, it means I’m struggling with it more than you might even realize. It means I’m being vulnerable with you right now, and trust me, that’s not easy, but trust me, I trust you:)

Of course, you might be thinking, "If you don’t have mastery in this, then why the hell are you preaching self-love like you’re a proclaimed saint?" First of all, no, I’m not a saint. And secondly, I’m telling you this because you aren’t alone. We’re in this together. Yes, I’m still figuring it out. But at this point, I have learned from myself as well as others, and I will still continue you to learn. And this post is not just for whoever is reading it. It’s for me, too. It’s my testament to me loving myself.

🌱 11. You’re Still Growing, Always :

So, my journey might not be complete yet, and neither is yours. Even if you're 30, 40, 50, 60, 70, 80 or more, we all have a journey and a long way to go:) That’s life itself. It’s never about reaching some finish line or a final “completion”- It’s all in the journey. The growth, the moments, the lessons, and the way we keep evolving. So, let’s celebrate where we are right now, because that’s what matters the most.

🤍 12. Celebrate The Present Moment :

And remember, you’re still here. You’re still breathing. You’re still alive. That’s something worth celebrating. No matter where you are on your journey, the fact that you’re still moving forward, still learning, growing, that in itself is enough, my dear!

🫂 13. I Love You :

And remember, I love you. Whoever you are, you are a soul beneath everything you are. Haha. But seriously, come back to this post once in a while as a reminder that yes, I love myself, no matter who, what, when, or why I am. I will continue, and even at the time of need, I will help myself.

"Loving yourself isn't vanity; it's sanity." - Katrina Mayer. 

😭 14. Okay Fine, Here’s the Real Reason I Wrote This :

And now, since you've wandered all the way to the end... I owe you the truth.

So here's a little confession -

This entire post…
It wasn’t born out of some wise epiphany or enlightened soul bath.

Yeah, it was born out of me trying not to like someone.
That’s it. That’s the seed.

I hate how I’m exposing myself here, like man oh man, what am I even doing 😭
But hey, if I’m gonna spiral, might as well turn it into a poetic self-love moment and spell, right? And somehow, while avoiding that rabbit hole, I ended up diving headfirst into a monologue about loving myself.

But you know what? I’m done pretending that these feelings don’t exist.
Yes, I can like someone. And so can you.
And no, there is nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed by -
Liking someone doesn’t make you weak.
Caring doesn’t make you foolish.
It just means you’re human, with a heart, soul, and mind that still believes in connection.
So if you’ve ever felt that spark, that pull, that quiet hope…
Embrace it. Own it. Don’t shame yourself for feeling something beautiful.

DISCLAIMER: BUT YOOO!! DON'T GET TOO CARRIED AWAY PLEASE LIKE I HAVE TO ADD THIS SPECIFICALLY LOL.

💌 14. This is My Lighthouse :

✨This post is not just a message to you.

It’s a letter to me.
A little lighthouse I can come back to. A reminder that even in chaos, I am enough!

And now that we’re being all raw and real and totally exposed -

🎭 15. Special Note to the ‘Rentals' :

(📝 Note: This statement is specifically directed at the two individuals who contributed to my existence.)

Mom, Dad, if you’re reading this… please ignore.
Haha. Thanks for reading. Byeeee.
Nothing’s going on. I swear.
Note: This post contains zero romantic interest in any living being. Especially not one who may or may not exist.

This is purely artistic expression and an introspective exercise. 😌✍️
Please carry on with your day and pretend I’m just discussing the metaphysics of existence.
Totally not about anyone. Totally chill. Love ya'll.

🧘‍♀️ 16. Back To Breathing. Back To Loving :

Moving along.
Back to breathing.
Back to healing.❤️‍🩹
Back to loving the most unpredictable, dramatic, chaotic soul of all - mine

🎶 17. Ending On A Self-Love Anthem :

Ending it with a self-love anthem -

I've got an elastic heart
Yeah, I've got an elastic heart

And I will stay up through the night
Yeah, let's be clear, won't close my eyes
And I know that I can survive
I'll walk through fire to save my life
And I want it, I want my life so bad
I'm doin' everythin' I can
And another one bites the dust

It's hard to lose a chosen one

You did not break me
I'm still fighting for peace

Well, I've got thick skin and an elastic heart
But your blade, it might be too sharp
I'm like a rubber band until you pull too hard
Yeah, I may snap and I move fast
But you won't see me fall apart
'Cause I've got an elastic heart.

Until next time,
With the most mystically dramatic self-loving love,
XOXO,
MYM.

CREDITS :

1. MYSELF – For being the star of this emotional rollercoaster. You deserve a standing ovation. 💁‍♀️💖
2. Sarah Kane – For that badass quote: “No one can hate me more than I hate myself.” I just sprinkled some love on it. 💋<<33
3. Sia – For "Elastic Heart." Girl, your voice is my personal anthem. It’s basically my soundtrack for life. 🎤✨